Le renard et l'enfant

A beautiful nature film but with a harsh ending.
Magical and innocent and then at the end suddenly the film turns the young girl ugly-like she grew up and became exploitive.
Warning to parents with young children, don't let your kids watch after the girl "plays leash" with the fox at a logging site. I was a bit surprised at the change of tone.
A morality film?

Finally finished, "The Primal Wound" by Nancy Verrier.



I think the book is very valuable. But not just for those who are adopted. If you have lost your mother (even temporarily) because of death, physical illness, divorce, workaholism, or psychological illness you will see yourself in this book. For many adopted people this book was a breakthrough- verbalizing all kinds of hidden feelings and thoughts. Nancy Verrier is a wonderful speaker and has a great deal of courage to bring forth ideas that are highly controversial and difficult to define.

My only objection to this book is the omission of the spiritual element of destiny. Stop reading now if you don't believe in this mumbo jumbo but I do, so I will continue. If you believe, as I do, that you choose your parents. You also choose your adoptive parents. This means you have a specific destiny with your adopted family, just as you have a genetic destiny that was provided by your birth parents.
By omitting this, you portray the child as a victim who must be healed by destiny issues. This doesn't make sense to me.

My adopting/adopted friends are ALL aware of the genetic differences of their children and they honor these differences and when possible provide occasions for their children to "see themselves" in other faces, and to belong to groups that help to describe their identity. And as our children grow we begin to invite conversations around how we are different and how we can do better.

We are living in a very different time. Many of us have and will return to our children's homelands, (sometimes to work and ease suffering). Most of our friends have helped communities build wells, hospitals, libraries and schools. And there are even families I know who are helping to support organizations that keep children with their mothers, (like in Korea).

I like to focus on the positive and would have liked to have seen some solutions or "ideal situations", instead the ending focused on the physical body of the adopted child.

How about the whole child? Those beautiful eyes! That great singing voice! And Oh! That sense of humor and love of life!!!

It is a long road I know. And as a mom I fail miserably more often than I would like. But I really believe our daughter belongs to us and we belong to her. That means we are all Ethiopian, Indian, and American in our family.
With a dash of Sing-a-POH
LA!