Our forcast for the week.
Which is the same as the last two weeks.
What can be done?
Mud pies and play dams. Dishwashing outside.
And slug collecting.
Fun things so far in Maine:
Strawberries. Moody's diner. Eating with family. Wild turkeys. Driving in the country. Sanbate with her cousins. xo!
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Posting from my mom's computor in Maine!
It has been so much fun for us to be staying with family. And altho' it is raining we have stayed busy. Sister B and her family are moving into their new home next week and their is a lot of excitement in the house.
We were lucky to catch one day last week when it wasn't raining to go to Wingaersheek beach in Gloucester with my best friend from 10th grade who I haven't seen in over 30 years.
When we were in Massachusetts we were able to meet with my dearest friend from High school who adopted a little girl from China. We braved the rain and took our two beauties to Beaver Brook Reservation, another great spot for young children.
It has been so much fun for us to be staying with family. And altho' it is raining we have stayed busy. Sister B and her family are moving into their new home next week and their is a lot of excitement in the house.
We were lucky to catch one day last week when it wasn't raining to go to Wingaersheek beach in Gloucester with my best friend from 10th grade who I haven't seen in over 30 years.
When we were in Massachusetts we were able to meet with my dearest friend from High school who adopted a little girl from China. We braved the rain and took our two beauties to Beaver Brook Reservation, another great spot for young children.
Wednesday, June 03, 2009
The rambutan is a sweet white fleshy fruit with a thorny looking exterior. It is very easy to peel and eat.
Tuesday, June 02, 2009
A friend just sent me the link to this parenting article by Lisa Belkin published in The Way We Live Now.
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/31/magazine/31wwln-lede-t.html
It is interesting to me to read the monikers used for different parenting styles. To me, the phrase "child-centered" means just that, you allow the child to reveal themselves through what you observe and you parent accordingly. But here it means you jump every time the child cries or makes a demand. That would be called "No one is in charge" parenting in my book. But I would agree that the guilt and anxiety I feel over my "bad" parenting is greater and more painful than any feeling of inadequacy I have felt in my entire life. When I sense I have erred with my daughter I feel deserving of a visit from CSS.
Do I hover? I try not to but tend to stay pretty close as my daughter is 1. Needy OR 2.Into Everything. It is a fabulous day when she can play on her own for more than 5 minutes. It is a wonderful day when it is not spent with my daughter clinging to my legs during the hour in which I try to tidy up or do laundry, (having spent the rest of the day singing and playing with her).
Do I feel guilty and anxious as I utter these horrible words? How could you, an adopting mum, feel this way? What is wrong with you?
It is good to hear that other mums feel the way I do. I guess the government couldn't afford to lock us ALL away.
And as my daughter gains her independence, and she has already started, there will be more time to work on projects at home. And soon she will have another adult to play with at home as we will be hiring a live-in to help us manage the house and watch over our beauty-girl. But this can be challenging too. How does one teach another person to, like in the article, "let the child be"? I want Sun Booty to have a healthy sense of self-esteem (not as common in girls) and a curiosity about the world even as she gets big enough to understand the phrase, "I am bored."
And what will I do with my free time? I may take a class. I will most definitely work. And perhaps spend some time with that handsome man I married.
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/31/magazine/31wwln-lede-t.html
It is interesting to me to read the monikers used for different parenting styles. To me, the phrase "child-centered" means just that, you allow the child to reveal themselves through what you observe and you parent accordingly. But here it means you jump every time the child cries or makes a demand. That would be called "No one is in charge" parenting in my book. But I would agree that the guilt and anxiety I feel over my "bad" parenting is greater and more painful than any feeling of inadequacy I have felt in my entire life. When I sense I have erred with my daughter I feel deserving of a visit from CSS.
Do I hover? I try not to but tend to stay pretty close as my daughter is 1. Needy OR 2.Into Everything. It is a fabulous day when she can play on her own for more than 5 minutes. It is a wonderful day when it is not spent with my daughter clinging to my legs during the hour in which I try to tidy up or do laundry, (having spent the rest of the day singing and playing with her).
Do I feel guilty and anxious as I utter these horrible words? How could you, an adopting mum, feel this way? What is wrong with you?
It is good to hear that other mums feel the way I do. I guess the government couldn't afford to lock us ALL away.
And as my daughter gains her independence, and she has already started, there will be more time to work on projects at home. And soon she will have another adult to play with at home as we will be hiring a live-in to help us manage the house and watch over our beauty-girl. But this can be challenging too. How does one teach another person to, like in the article, "let the child be"? I want Sun Booty to have a healthy sense of self-esteem (not as common in girls) and a curiosity about the world even as she gets big enough to understand the phrase, "I am bored."
And what will I do with my free time? I may take a class. I will most definitely work. And perhaps spend some time with that handsome man I married.
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