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Sunday, October 22, 2006
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Thursday, October 05, 2006
In response to head set/head phone users everywhere who are virtually not really here among us:
Well, I’ve done it again: Alienated yet another person because of my discomfort with driving and cell phoning. The argument that when driving 7 miles an hour one is more available to multi-task or, This is the ONLY time I have to talk, or “If I can talk to someone in the car with me why can’t I talk to you on the phone?” isn’t lost on me. I understand, really I do. One tries to be efficient. One tries to stave off boredom. One thinks, “Let me do this while I remember.”
However, the way I see it is, “Let me avoid being here now doing what I have chosen to do, which is, namely, sit in my car by myself with thousands of others who are sitting in their cars by themselves, or with their kids who are also plugged into the t.v. or cd player or some screen entertainment or listening to their drivers yammer on their cellphones. I wonder what those infants are thinking while mommy is talking to someone somewhere, “Is she talking to me?” But what is really sad to me is
everyone is going in the same direction and yet everyone feels alone.
I take the train to work now because I can. When I am on the train many people enhance the experience by reading, (which I do sometimes too), working, listening to music. And some people talk. Amazingly, some people choose to be on the train and be with the people they are with! But really, in defense of the people reading/working/ spacing out with music is that they are focusing on just one thing.
This is what I aspire to. I would like to be focused on the task at hand, be it working on the computer, riding my bike(without head phones), walking around the park (should I wear the head phones or listen to the birds/tree leaves rustling etc?),or talking on the phone to a sibling somewhere private.[1]
This brings me back to my original point. Should I prohibit others from phoning me while they are driving, or caring for their children (or yelling at their kids in my ear), doing housework, or moving their bowels? Maybe not. Maybe I should just let them know how I feel being relegated to the equation; talking to me = or < "task"[2]
Instead of trying to assert my belief system onto them perhaps if I just share my feelings and leave it at that I can avoid alienating them. If I just stay in the moment of how I feel today maybe when I say, "I am not comfortable with you driving and talking to me at the same time." Their response won’t be, “O.k. I’ll talk to you next year.”
[1] There is something really intimate about talking with one’s siblings, at least for me there is. I say anything and everything to my brothers and sisters and I really don’t wish to share that with anyone .
[2] If talking to me was more important than a task like driving somewhere, you would pull over. And if talking to me was the same as driving somewhere, you would do both. But if talking to me has less importance than the driving, the driving somewhere happens regardless of whether or not the talking does. It all depends on your priority in the moment.
Well, I’ve done it again: Alienated yet another person because of my discomfort with driving and cell phoning. The argument that when driving 7 miles an hour one is more available to multi-task or, This is the ONLY time I have to talk, or “If I can talk to someone in the car with me why can’t I talk to you on the phone?” isn’t lost on me. I understand, really I do. One tries to be efficient. One tries to stave off boredom. One thinks, “Let me do this while I remember.”
However, the way I see it is, “Let me avoid being here now doing what I have chosen to do, which is, namely, sit in my car by myself with thousands of others who are sitting in their cars by themselves, or with their kids who are also plugged into the t.v. or cd player or some screen entertainment or listening to their drivers yammer on their cellphones. I wonder what those infants are thinking while mommy is talking to someone somewhere, “Is she talking to me?” But what is really sad to me is
everyone is going in the same direction and yet everyone feels alone.
I take the train to work now because I can. When I am on the train many people enhance the experience by reading, (which I do sometimes too), working, listening to music. And some people talk. Amazingly, some people choose to be on the train and be with the people they are with! But really, in defense of the people reading/working/ spacing out with music is that they are focusing on just one thing.
This is what I aspire to. I would like to be focused on the task at hand, be it working on the computer, riding my bike(without head phones), walking around the park (should I wear the head phones or listen to the birds/tree leaves rustling etc?),or talking on the phone to a sibling somewhere private.[1]
This brings me back to my original point. Should I prohibit others from phoning me while they are driving, or caring for their children (or yelling at their kids in my ear), doing housework, or moving their bowels? Maybe not. Maybe I should just let them know how I feel being relegated to the equation; talking to me = or < "task"[2]
Instead of trying to assert my belief system onto them perhaps if I just share my feelings and leave it at that I can avoid alienating them. If I just stay in the moment of how I feel today maybe when I say, "I am not comfortable with you driving and talking to me at the same time." Their response won’t be, “O.k. I’ll talk to you next year.”
[1] There is something really intimate about talking with one’s siblings, at least for me there is. I say anything and everything to my brothers and sisters and I really don’t wish to share that with anyone .
[2] If talking to me was more important than a task like driving somewhere, you would pull over. And if talking to me was the same as driving somewhere, you would do both. But if talking to me has less importance than the driving, the driving somewhere happens regardless of whether or not the talking does. It all depends on your priority in the moment.
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