"Is She adopted or is she your real daughter?"
This from an old work buddy of mine who I bumped into at the beach in Maine.
I smile.
"She is adopted AND she is my real daughter!"
"You know what I mean."
"Actually, I do but the question might be confusing to my girl here."

A Wonderful Post about this very thing at Habesha Child you need to read.
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